Some random thoughts and perspectives about Gothic and Lolita. It starts with some Coco Chanel Quotes that I adore:
1. A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.
2. Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening.
3. In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.
4. The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.
The girls who are into Gothic and Lolita fashion are willing to take the steps to be all of the above. They don't go with the crowd but rather are willing to show their own unique self expression. This is not easy because it sets oneself up to be questioned and ridiculed at times. But it is an important step towards self confidence knowing that a girl is being true to herself. There are too many moments in life where one is challenged to follow her own path or just compromise to "get along". I almost equate that to giving up one's individuality. One compromise at a time.
G&L girls are also creative. Loving the feminine nature of the fashion and making a unique fashion statement because Gothic and Lolita offers so much room for individualism. Every Sweet Lolita, Gothic Lolita, Hime Lolita, Classic Lolita, etc has her own unique and individual style. But it is much more than just the way she dresses. It is her attitude and her openness to new ideas and being willing to discover who she really is.
I also feel this helps each one of us become more accepting of the differences and diversity we find out there. America has changed so much. It has become a multi-ethnic and multi-cultural country. Diversity is a wonderful thing if we are willing to be open and accepting. There is so much we can learn from each other. The "real america" is not the America of the 1950s any more. Anyone care to live in the society and culture of "Mad Men"? How about that for being totally devoid of values where conformity was the rule. But even then some women were trying to break out of the norm.
It is very challenging to be out there and show proper manners when there are still ignorant and rude people who laugh and ridicule those of us who care to be different. My approach is to "Consider the Source" and not stoop to their level. Ignorant and stupid people never prosper. Love who you are and revel in it.
Andrea Nicole Baker